Last weekend, my husband and I went to lunch just the two of us in the downtown area of the city we live in. We decided to sit outside and enjoy the nice weather while we shared some guacamole and a Mexican dish. It was in-between lunch and dinner, so the restaurant wasn’t very busy, but there were a couple of people sitting in the tables next to us along the front of the restaurant.
After we finished our meal and paid, I got up as my husband went inside to hand our waiter the money we owed. As I started to walk towards the sidewalk, I noticed a table of two women (likely my age or a little bit older). The woman facing me was kind of staring with a surprised look on her face and my immediate thought was that she was looking at me because my belly is huge and I look like I’m about to pop, which is something I’ve heard from many random people when I’m out and about.
But instead, she proceeded to tell me just the opposite and expressed how great she thought I looked, saying, and I quote, “pregnancy goals”. I can’t tell you how much her kind gesture meant to me. It was a very short exchange, and probably didn’t seem like a big deal to her, but it made my day.
It takes a really kind heart to walk up to a complete stranger and compliment them, and I’d like to say thank you to the woman who stopped me at that restaurant and every other woman who has went out of their way to say something nice to me. I admire your courage, genuineness and consciousness of other people’s feelings. I truly hope that you’ll receive the same sense of appreciation when someone compliments you in the future.
So very often, I get stopped by people who ask when I’m due, if it’s my first pregnancy, what I’m having, etc., and I love that my bump can strike up a conversation with strangers and people passing. What I enjoy most is when the conversations are filled with positive vibes and encouragement. I think we could all use a little more of that in our lives (pregnant or not).
So, here’s a challenge for you: the next time you see a pregnant woman, try to find a way to make her feel beautiful with the words you use – I promise you, the smile on her face will be worth it. Let’s not stop there though, the next time you see a fellow mom juggling her babies, another woman younger or older at a restaurant or store, or a teenager out and about with her friends, make that kind gesture and compliment them in some way. I know it can be hard and intimidating to do, but think about the last time you received a compliment from a complete stranger – it sticks in your mind and usually speaks to your heart.
One last shout out before I go. Here’s to all of the husbands and dads-to-be who also make an effort to make us feel like we’re truly glowing. My husband has been incredible, always going out of his way to call me beautiful and speaking to my words of affirmation heart. I love him so much for that and more.
There’s my rant for the week. I hope you’ll find joy in kind gestures. Cheers to the weekend and to finally being able to drink wine in the next week or so! 🙂